Sunday, December 25, 2011

"So, Are You Still an RA?"

Every Christmas holiday, I prepare myself for the onslaught of personal questions asked by my relatives: How are classes going? When do you graduate? Are you still an RA? And, every Christmas holiday I repeat the same phrases: I’m NOT in class anymore. I graduated awhile ago. I’m NOT an RA. Despite my attempts to explain what I do, no one in my family really understands what a Hall Director does.

Tonight was no different. As I hungrily dug into my mashed potatoes, Uncle Harold inquired as to when I was going to “stop fooling around in college and get a real job”. Without putting down my fork (I was starving after all), I told him I don’t go to college, I work for the college, and I don’t live in my residence hall, I own it. Before I got myself in trouble with an even snarkier comment, I quickly shoved by oversized bite into my mouth. The only response I got from Uncle Harold was a smirk and a “humpf”—he didn’t get it.

Additionally, after all gifts were unwrapped and the living room looked like Santa’s Workshop exploded, I gathered up the candles and hot plate my parents bought for me and prepared to ship them to less fortunate twenty-somethings without a proper collection of scented votives. However, my mother intervened and demanded to know why I wasn’t bringing them home with me. With a heavy sigh, I explained (again!) that I live in a residence hall and candles are not permitted according to the student handbook, which I am required to follow. I even quoted the specific paragraph and cited the exact passage number. She just glared at me with a hand on her hip as I made my usual piles, items I can take home and items relegated to the realm of regifting.

One of these days, one of two things will happen: my family will finally understand what I do for a living and take it seriously, rather than assume I am a lost college student-wannabe who can’t give up the life of residence halls. Or, I will find another job that pays terribly, offers no free apartment, and requires me to commute. In their eyes, this would qualify as a “real job”, and they would stop harassing me about whether or not “I’m still an RA”.

7 comments:

  1. Well said! There needs to be a script written for Hall Directors, especially in dealing with family members who don't get it.

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  2. Let's be honest though, you know that you can easily get away with candles and hotplates. Hell, I did as an RA.....:X

    :)

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  3. Agreed! I usually have candles in my apartment and it's no problem. Does your institution allow pets? Mine recently started banning live-in staff from having them.

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  4. If you heat up the wax on a candle warmer and pull out the wick, it isn't a candle anymore...

    At least that's the rule we follow. Still smells pretty.

    Though a candle burner is essentially a little hot plate, so I'm not sure how that flies...

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  5. oh fuck it, my apt is full of candles, hot plates, toasters, and ash trays.

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  6. This is a great video to show family members.
    tohttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DOsmrbH37_8&feature=youtube_gdata_player

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  7. I have a pet AND burn candles (and occasionally incense)! When residents (and RAs) ask how I get away with this, my answer is simple: "I didn't sign a housing contract."

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